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10 types of stress and how to deal with them. Erection and orgasm anxiety, fears of rejection and death. A liberating read.

The book by Giorgos Pinteris entitled "Ten types of stress and their antidotes" is published by iWrite publications.

Ten types of stress and their antidotes.

Do you have a series of thoughts that "overwhelm" you? Do you get so anxious and stressed that you get short of breath, your heart beats faster, you sweat, or you feel like you need air?
If you often feel any of the above, you can apply a useful trick: if you wear a traditional wristwatch, look at the seconds hand for half a minute. So it usually holds a stress relief, according to psychologist Giorgos Pinteris.

It's one of the many tips he provides in his new self-help book, Ten Types of Stress and Their Antidotes, published by iWrite. As he writes, "the word 'stress' is not a noun, like the word 'shoes' or the word 'bicycle.' Unless you see some anxiety circulating in your neighborhood or in your home. Learning to control your stress through systematic relaxation training is achievable for 85% of the population."
The book by Giorgos Pinteris entitled "Ten types of stress and their antidotes" is published by iWrite publications.

The book by Giorgos Pinteris entitled "Ten types of stress and their antidotes” is published by iWrite publications.

Within 115 pages, Mr. Pinteris, Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Ball State University, Indiana, USA, explains in an understandable and illustrative way 10 common forms of stress and their "antidotes", that is, methods that can be mitigated and our life to become more functional and pleasant:

  • Performance anxiety
  • Sexual performance anxiety
  • Rejection anxiety
  • Illness anxiety
  • Crowd anxiety (agoraphobia)
  • Confinement anxiety (claustophobia)
  • Anxiety of impending doom
  • Recovery stress
  • Anxiety of impatience and haste
  • Panic attacks
In addition to these, he briefly describes some phobias, which he has encountered during his career, but which are not so common, such as philophobia, churchphobia, mirrorphobia and dollophobia. It also gives specific examples of each type of anxiety and clarifies how we distinguish fear from phobia:

"The best criterion is reality. If the source of the fear exists and most people would be afraid, then it is fear. If the source of the fear is unjustified and most people would not be afraid, then it is a phobia."

 

The word "stress" is not a noun, like the word "shoes" or the word "bicycle", according to psychologist Giorgos Pinteris. Image source: Pexels.

The word "stress" is not a noun, like the word "shoes" or the word "bicycle", according to psychologist Giorgos Pinteris. Image source: Pexels.

Erection and orgasm anxiety

As stated by Dr. Pinteris, a common form of sexual performance anxiety in men is called "secondary sexual impotence." That is, while a man has no erection problems when he masturbates, he is unable to have an erection when he is with a woman. Performance anxiety prevents him from feeling arousal, which is the basic condition for an erection to occur.

"The main problem here is self-observation. Instead of focusing on the sexual stimulus in front of him, he focuses on his penis. While he looks at and touches the naked woman next to him, he does not see her because his mind is focused on a non-sexual stimulus. Something similar happens to the student who tries to study. His eyes are on the text, but his mind is on the fellow student he likes", explains the author of the book.
Something similar happens to women who experience difficulty in orgasm. Mr. Pinteris says that the "antidote" is in no way pretending, because "no matter how good an actress you are, one day you will be exposed".

Instead of the woman's mind being on arousal, it goes to whether she will have an orgasm. To make it even more understandable, the author quotes the following example: “Imagine that you are in a dark room and you are holding a flashlight. As you turn it around, you will see what is in the room. But if you look into his eyes, you will go blind."

Anxiety of the shy, death, panic attacks.

Regarding the other categories of anxiety, the psychologist Pinteris emphasizes the so-called "anxiety of rejection". This is something that often concerns timid and shy people, who are dominated by the fear that others will not accept them because they do not find them likable. “Out of 100 people you know, how many would you stand to be rejected? The answer statistically is 50%. If you would like only 10% to reject you, you have unrealistic expectations and you would do well to revise them.
Another step is to make a list of the people you know. The longer the list, the better. Next to each name put a (+) if you accept the person, an (O) if you are neutral and a (-) if you reject it.

What percentage of people do you accept? How does that percentage compare to the percentage of people who would accept to reject you?", is the advice given by Dr. Pinteris. Equally widespread is the "anxiety of death", from which some young people are tormented, without having any health problem that justifies such a fear. In the author's opinion, those who fear death are actually more afraid of life because they don't take risks. As an "antidote" he suggests that they identify the source of the anxiety and ask themselves certain questions.

In the last chapter of the book, Dr. Pinteris "unravels" the "landscape" regarding panic attacks. As he explains, a panic attack involves action (getting it on our feet, yelling "help", etc.) and is not the same as a "sudden burst of anxiety", which sometimes goes unnoticed.

Anxiety: enemy or annoying friend? 

In any case, it is extremely important, according to Giorgos Pinteris, to find ways to "ground" the stress, to put compensations of joy and to come to a state of relaxation. Whether we see it as an enemy or an annoying friend, it is clearly more effective to observe it than to try to drive it away.

"An antidote is like a painkiller. It can catch one time and not the other. Nor are its effects permanent [...] In essence, the problem is not the stress, but the relationship of the stress to the personality of the person suffering from it. Every stress, like every person, has its own profile", concludes the psychologist. More tips for managing stress, in whatever form it may take, are in the book “Ten types of stress and their antidotes” published by iWrite Publications. Don't let stress define you! Find the antidote for the anxieties that plague you and start a new life!

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